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Perfection is Overrated

September 22, 2025 lcscarlett957

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?

The best piece of advice I got was from my brother and my kind manager at work.

Ever since I was a child…always been a people pleaser and did it for their sake not really my own choice.

Try to be the perfect person in their eyes.

When advancement there are struggles, hardships, obstacles, and fear.

Everyone’s path is different and not gonna work out, but that doesn’t mean that it’s useless because the effort to try is still there.

And it weighs heavily on the person because they feel they let everyone down.

But in reality they haven’t…

Their idea of perfection for other people’s eyes is just overrated.

What matters is doing the stuff that makes you happy, or being the person you are with no filters, and if people don’t like it…

Don’t care and shine like your original self.

I heard this from a well-known comedian that it took him 38 years to have the life he needed and prayed for. Nothing went perfectly and the judgment of a lot both personal and social was coming in all corners.

He just ignored and did actions that made him better and better for his true self.

I have a perfectionist factor in me that is a negative that made me have lots of breakdowns and negative thoughts.

I’m taking steps to be better for me, and just ignore the noise of others or my negative self-talk and just be me.

Take things step by step

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No Need to Be Perfect or Control

September 15, 2025 lcscarlett957

Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.

As a kid, I wouldn’t say I was too pressured.

But I did not get the grades in the subjects that my parents approved of….

There would be harsh and negative judgment and that caused me to put so much pressure and be hard and critical in my own self-reflection.

So much so, when I got a bad grade like a C or B- in grade school to college. I would cry for an hour and say such horrible things to myself. I would want to control the outcome and when things didn’t go my way, it would feel like the end of my life.

Like…I’m so stupid, Why can’t I get this right, I have no brain 😔

The instant experience or action that led to a change was in 2024. When I was depressed for a couple after I failed a big exam and others passed. I put such a comparison and felt stupid because it was a familiar subject and I couldn’t remember from college after the pandemic.

Then my brother told me to take a trip for my self-care and get into a new environment and erase everything and live in the moment.

So I did, it was the best decision. It was like a refresh and when I got back home. I googled what I can listen to for self-care and change. Because I was not in a good state of mind, I decided to focus and start a lifestyle journey that I am still continuing.

My first 2 podcasts that helped me so much even today.

Mel Robbins
Jay Shetty

2 Quotes that helped change my thought process and still help me today.

I may not be perfect, but I am worthy – Mel Robbins

Mel Robbins discusses in her podcasts, in a lot of episodes that chasing perfection is a trap that prevents true progress and acceptance of oneself.

I took that into account because I am a people pleaser and it was for other people I needed to be perfect, and set an amazing standard that I didn’t accept myself, no one can be good or excel at everything.

The externals will never be perfect, and the goal isn’t perfection. Life is not going to go your way. You have to go your way and take life with you. Understanding this will help you be prepared for whatever may come – Jay Shetty

After hearing that on many of his podcasts episodes with experts I psychology and human behavior.

I really sat with myself. Everyone’s life has its ups and downs and you cannot control everything in life, you can only control yourself, your actions, and make yourself happy.

I am still reminding myself because as I go through the stressful and bad times, I forget. So I just write it down and remind myself what I can control and grateful for.