Sometimes its hard when I feel like the most responsible and aren’t beligrent of serious situations.
And its the small annoying things that I have to handle, when it can be clearly taken care by another person who is responsible for their own mess.
Its puts mental stress…..on not only by my coping limit but my inner peace.
Examples
Someone leaving messes around the house that they expect others people to pick up for them
Someone is not responsible for his/her finances and leaves it to another to be good when they are having their own stress
Someone who isn’t being responsible for his own life or career and you have to be his assistant
When the complaints start, and you want to not blow up. It helps to remember some podcasts like Mel Robbins or Jay Shetty on boundaries, mental health, stress and responsibilities.
Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.
As a kid, I wouldn’t say I was too pressured.
But I did not get the grades in the subjects that my parents approved of….
There would be harsh and negative judgment and that caused me to put so much pressure and be hard and critical in my own self-reflection.
So much so, when I got a bad grade like a C or B- in grade school to college. I would cry for an hour and say such horrible things to myself. I would want to control the outcome and when things didn’t go my way, it would feel like the end of my life.
Like…I’m so stupid, Why can’t I get this right, I have no brain 😔
The instant experience or action that led to a change was in 2024. When I was depressed for a couple after I failed a big exam and others passed. I put such a comparison and felt stupid because it was a familiar subject and I couldn’t remember from college after the pandemic.
Then my brother told me to take a trip for my self-care and get into a new environment and erase everything and live in the moment.
So I did, it was the best decision. It was like a refresh and when I got back home. I googled what I can listen to for self-care and change. Because I was not in a good state of mind, I decided to focus and start a lifestyle journey that I am still continuing.
My first 2 podcasts that helped me so much even today.
Mel Robbins
Jay Shetty
2 Quotes that helped change my thought process and still help me today.
I may not be perfect, but I am worthy – Mel Robbins
Mel Robbins discusses in her podcasts, in a lot of episodes that chasing perfection is a trap that prevents true progress and acceptance of oneself.
I took that into account because I am a people pleaser and it was for other people I needed to be perfect, and set an amazing standard that I didn’t accept myself, no one can be good or excel at everything.
The externals will never be perfect, and the goal isn’t perfection. Life is not going to go your way. You have to go your way and take life with you. Understanding this will help you be prepared for whatever may come – Jay Shetty
After hearing that on many of his podcasts episodes with experts I psychology and human behavior.
I really sat with myself. Everyone’s life has its ups and downs and you cannot control everything in life, you can only control yourself, your actions, and make yourself happy.
I am still reminding myself because as I go through the stressful and bad times, I forget. So I just write it down and remind myself what I can control and grateful for.
What strategies do you use to maintain your health and well-being?
Mental Health is something I did not consider important, until 3 years ago I got wiser and had a lot of personal factors….something that took me to a very low point in my life and I didn’t know how to get out.
So I just thought and searched online what is something I can do to improve my mornings and not feel depressed….
And some strategies that I found out…
1. Try and make a routine to help lessen the load. With mornings and evenings.
2. Add small healthy habits slowly to help your mental and physical well-being.
3. Exercise although tiring and hard at first can go a long way and helps…
4. Don’t wait to start something or learn something new just do it.
5. Meditation and time to yourself is a very important factor that is healthy to add.
6. Journaling your thoughts, fears, aspirations, anger, joy, sadness, and happiness is a good outlet to release stress
7. Planning out meals brought a new joy and improved my mental health because I don’t feel the need to rush or stuck in confusion.
8. Take a break during the day…too much time on one or multiple things will lead to burnout.
I am still reading and looking at some more good advice to add to help me but I still keep on trying. 🙂
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