Since I started my fitness journey last year .I really wanted to work on my endurance and grit for long periods.
And I’ve seen people who’ve built up and grown so much in their fitness journey and put so many activities and have really tried one marathon as a realistic goal.
Like, I remember one of the famous movies, I’m not sure. It has something to do with a famous boxer or a person in training. When a person runs up the stairs and then cheers as they reach their goal.
I wanna try to do that. Maybe running a 5k marathon or hiking up a big trail like a mini mountain to reach the top or finish line and look down and say…
Yeah, I did it.
And since I’ve always been sedentary and put some workouts in my routines, I’ve never tried running a marathon as a nice fitness goal, and running as an activity so that could be something I can try for the first time.
Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.
As a kid, I wouldn’t say I was too pressured.
But I did not get the grades in the subjects that my parents approved of….
There would be harsh and negative judgment and that caused me to put so much pressure and be hard and critical in my own self-reflection.
So much so, when I got a bad grade like a C or B- in grade school to college. I would cry for an hour and say such horrible things to myself. I would want to control the outcome and when things didn’t go my way, it would feel like the end of my life.
Like…I’m so stupid, Why can’t I get this right, I have no brain 😔
The instant experience or action that led to a change was in 2024. When I was depressed for a couple after I failed a big exam and others passed. I put such a comparison and felt stupid because it was a familiar subject and I couldn’t remember from college after the pandemic.
Then my brother told me to take a trip for my self-care and get into a new environment and erase everything and live in the moment.
So I did, it was the best decision. It was like a refresh and when I got back home. I googled what I can listen to for self-care and change. Because I was not in a good state of mind, I decided to focus and start a lifestyle journey that I am still continuing.
My first 2 podcasts that helped me so much even today.
Mel Robbins
Jay Shetty
2 Quotes that helped change my thought process and still help me today.
I may not be perfect, but I am worthy – Mel Robbins
Mel Robbins discusses in her podcasts, in a lot of episodes that chasing perfection is a trap that prevents true progress and acceptance of oneself.
I took that into account because I am a people pleaser and it was for other people I needed to be perfect, and set an amazing standard that I didn’t accept myself, no one can be good or excel at everything.
The externals will never be perfect, and the goal isn’t perfection. Life is not going to go your way. You have to go your way and take life with you. Understanding this will help you be prepared for whatever may come – Jay Shetty
After hearing that on many of his podcasts episodes with experts I psychology and human behavior.
I really sat with myself. Everyone’s life has its ups and downs and you cannot control everything in life, you can only control yourself, your actions, and make yourself happy.
I am still reminding myself because as I go through the stressful and bad times, I forget. So I just write it down and remind myself what I can control and grateful for.
What could you let go of, for the sake of harmony?
I can let go of going on my phone for most of the day and most of the night for the sake of harmony, and my mental health
The bad part of the dopamine has started to affect me very badly….
Especially my energy levels and importantly my well-being so I have to understand that it’s okay to let go of and I was just trying to keep myself entertained.
But in reality, I was just jeopardizing my mental health and I need to move forward.
Describe a positive thing a family member has done for you.
A positive thing that a family member or most of my family members has done for me is their encouragement and advice…
Well, everyone has their hard times and struggles, and sometimes they’re support and advice, and encouragement from your family really helps a long way.
For instance, my brother gave me advice how to just keep on taking life one step at a time.
When it comes to implementing my new lifestyle and aiming for what I want to do moving forward from how I’m stuck at the moment and confused in aspects of my life. Even though it can set me back, I can be on the right path one day.
For instance, one thing that I’m stuck at is implementing my new lifestyle with figuring out how I can move forward my career and some advice my mom gave to me is that…
Don’t be so hard on yourself….
You can be successful just try to lay the build blocks piece by piece
I’m okay at the moment, but I can always improve….
A journey is not that quick to finish…
I just have to work hard, and sometimes their encouragement goes a long way….
Well, I’m just starting to read this book, but I think it’s a book that I can read over and over again because the lessons from this book are a good implementation to taking back your own personal growth.As good reminders of how a good self vibe can lead to the greatness of a good life.
It is called Good Vibes, Good Life by Vex King
I think my favorite chapters are learning about self-love and if there’s a lot of advice in the book that shows a simple solution that most people forget in the busyness of everyday life.
One of my favorite passages is just about how expressing gratitude throughout the day, even at the start of your morning, can really brighten up your vibe.
Also, technology he has kind of taken over, and we kind of lost the personal touch of connections that are important to upkeep.
Technology is a tool, not a substitute for living – Vex King
How often do you say “no” to things that would interfere with your goals?
Well, in my case, a little or sometimes…..
It’s because I’ve always been a people. Pleaser, I’ve always had to say yes because I always felt guilty or bad, or I put people interests in front of my own.
I’m still trying to fix it, but um now I’m trying to say no, or you don’t go to things that will interfere in achieving my goals. Especially for or creating my own new mindset and lifestyle.
For instance, I had to say no to doing a tiresome job that my father forced me to take because it was causing me too much stress. It won’t let me achieve my goals, and plus it really made me feel depressed.
It felt good and a great decision. Because I feel not obligated for any tedious tasks and feel less stressed.
But it’s still hard to say no to my close ones, even though i’m working on it…😅
What’s a secret skill or ability you have or wish you had?
I think one of the secret skills that I wish I had early on is having the skills of observation and deduction.
I’m training myself one step at a time…
But I am a good fan of mystery and am trying to read more of the genre…
Also, I want to read more about the world best detective, Sherlock Homes
I have always been a good observer since I have been so quiet and recognize different never been able to act on them accurately
It’s always been a skill that I have admired and been impressed with, especially when I see people show that skills on TV, “Colin Cloud” on AGT, made me more interested 👌
How has a failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?
One recent apparent failure that has set me up for future success or set me on the future path would be when I failed one important.
Let’s say it was for a postgraduate option trying to help improve my knowledge and with my career earlier two years ago, and I was a bit devastated, well more than devastated, when I failed, didn’t really feel more confidence in myself in lost more even self worth.
So I gave up, but then I started to take a break and then look forward, and I learned a few things, a few skills took a step back and re-evaluate the situation. And here I am again willing to give it another because the worst thing isn’t giving up the worst thing is not trying as much and learning more as I can.
The Quiet Bloom 