self-love – The Quiet Bloom

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No Need to Be Perfect or Control

September 15, 2025 lcscarlett957

Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.

As a kid, I wouldn’t say I was too pressured.

But I did not get the grades in the subjects that my parents approved of….

There would be harsh and negative judgment and that caused me to put so much pressure and be hard and critical in my own self-reflection.

So much so, when I got a bad grade like a C or B- in grade school to college. I would cry for an hour and say such horrible things to myself. I would want to control the outcome and when things didn’t go my way, it would feel like the end of my life.

Like…I’m so stupid, Why can’t I get this right, I have no brain 😔

The instant experience or action that led to a change was in 2024. When I was depressed for a couple after I failed a big exam and others passed. I put such a comparison and felt stupid because it was a familiar subject and I couldn’t remember from college after the pandemic.

Then my brother told me to take a trip for my self-care and get into a new environment and erase everything and live in the moment.

So I did, it was the best decision. It was like a refresh and when I got back home. I googled what I can listen to for self-care and change. Because I was not in a good state of mind, I decided to focus and start a lifestyle journey that I am still continuing.

My first 2 podcasts that helped me so much even today.

Mel Robbins
Jay Shetty

2 Quotes that helped change my thought process and still help me today.

I may not be perfect, but I am worthy – Mel Robbins

Mel Robbins discusses in her podcasts, in a lot of episodes that chasing perfection is a trap that prevents true progress and acceptance of oneself.

I took that into account because I am a people pleaser and it was for other people I needed to be perfect, and set an amazing standard that I didn’t accept myself, no one can be good or excel at everything.

The externals will never be perfect, and the goal isn’t perfection. Life is not going to go your way. You have to go your way and take life with you. Understanding this will help you be prepared for whatever may come – Jay Shetty

After hearing that on many of his podcasts episodes with experts I psychology and human behavior.

I really sat with myself. Everyone’s life has its ups and downs and you cannot control everything in life, you can only control yourself, your actions, and make yourself happy.

I am still reminding myself because as I go through the stressful and bad times, I forget. So I just write it down and remind myself what I can control and grateful for.

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Home, Work & Life (Sacrifices)

May 21, 2025 lcscarlett957

What sacrifices have you made in life?

Well, recently, I have made a lot of sacrifices in my life because of the world around me. But because of my delicate situation…

Like, for instance, I moved to a new building around 2 to 3 years ago, and it’s not even close to my workplace. I wanted to move closer in the area to the townhouse or a condo, but I had to sacrifice because of my brother, my mom, and my dad….

All of their workplaces are closer by car to our building. So I know I have to make the sacrifice to take buses, subways or pay a lot for Uber just to get back and forward

Instead of getting a car out since there is jo place in my building and insurance has been getting more and more expensive…

I ride four buses to work, twice a day during the week.

There’s this part of me that I wish I could just run away and move out, but the world around me saying otherwise with the economy being so expensive for housing, internet, and food. It’s a mind numbing of a sacrifice to go through.

Sometimes I sacrifice my happiness because of the strictness and expectations of my parents. Sometimes I can’t go to places by myself because of their old-fashioned ways just saying that I’m a girl and that’s dangerous all the time out there.

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Good Vibes Good Life

April 8, 2025 lcscarlett957

What book could you read over and over again?

Well, I’m just starting to read this book, but I think it’s a book that I can read over and over again because the lessons from this book are a good implementation to taking back your own personal growth.As good reminders of how a good self vibe can lead to the greatness of a good life.

It is called Good Vibes, Good Life by Vex King

I think my favorite chapters are learning about self-love and if there’s a lot of advice in the book that shows a simple solution that most people forget in the busyness of everyday life.

One of my favorite passages is just about how expressing gratitude throughout the day, even at the start of your morning, can really brighten up your vibe.