As a young girl, I am used to or accustomed to trying to succeed every time, and every time that I fail, it would just be a hammer to the head or a punch in the face that and everything would be fallen out of place.
Or there are some times when I do have social anxiety, and I feel alone, and I just feel out of place with the other cliques or groups of friends that I’m not part of.
Or another feeling that I just don’t belong.
It’s a lonely inside feeling, but I always get reminded later that I will be okay….sometimes.
I mean, no one’s perfect, but it’s really hard not to be perfect in your parents’ eyes when they have high expectations for you. It adds a couple of pressures.
And when you’re a quiet girl, it’s hard to make friends but I understand now that you don’t need a lot of friends to be okay. But I do have a small, but it does make me feel a little lonely and scared.
List three jobs you’d consider pursuing if money didn’t matter.
Money is the central focus of most of the population all around the world of getting the things everyone wants…
But its not the most important in the world.
Kind of strange really because I see many people who have high-end jobs with such high pay but aren’t truly happy because of the daily stress that takes over.
Such a coincidence since its the same topic that a heard on a recent Mel Robbins podcast today.
If pursuing money were not an factor for me…
I would work 3 types of job that I would like to give a try.
Actress – a creative job that since I was a kid, I would love to do because when it came from a scene from a movie I watched or a funny moment of a TV. Loved acting it out.
Wrestler/Manager in a wrestling company – an active job around a sport that I fell in love with since I was 5. I was not the most active but I wanted to see how I’ll do.
Detective – I don’t know when I started to like crime and theories. Maybe by knowing about Sherlock Homes, reading mysteries since middle school or watching Elementary and The Rookie but its something I would try
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?
The best piece of advice I got was from my brother and my kind manager at work.
Ever since I was a child…always been a people pleaser and did it for their sake not really my own choice.
Try to be the perfect person in their eyes.
When advancement there are struggles, hardships, obstacles, and fear.
Everyone’s path is different and not gonna work out, but that doesn’t mean that it’s useless because the effort to try is still there.
And it weighs heavily on the person because they feel they let everyone down.
But in reality they haven’t…
Their idea of perfection for other people’s eyes is just overrated.
What matters is doing the stuff that makes you happy, or being the person you are with no filters, and if people don’t like it…
Don’t care and shine like your original self.
I heard this from a well-known comedian that it took him 38 years to have the life he needed and prayed for. Nothing went perfectly and the judgment of a lot both personal and social was coming in all corners.
He just ignored and did actions that made him better and better for his true self.
I have a perfectionist factor in me that is a negative that made me have lots of breakdowns and negative thoughts.
I’m taking steps to be better for me, and just ignore the noise of others or my negative self-talk and just be me.
Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.
As a kid, I wouldn’t say I was too pressured.
But I did not get the grades in the subjects that my parents approved of….
There would be harsh and negative judgment and that caused me to put so much pressure and be hard and critical in my own self-reflection.
So much so, when I got a bad grade like a C or B- in grade school to college. I would cry for an hour and say such horrible things to myself. I would want to control the outcome and when things didn’t go my way, it would feel like the end of my life.
Like…I’m so stupid, Why can’t I get this right, I have no brain 😔
The instant experience or action that led to a change was in 2024. When I was depressed for a couple after I failed a big exam and others passed. I put such a comparison and felt stupid because it was a familiar subject and I couldn’t remember from college after the pandemic.
Then my brother told me to take a trip for my self-care and get into a new environment and erase everything and live in the moment.
So I did, it was the best decision. It was like a refresh and when I got back home. I googled what I can listen to for self-care and change. Because I was not in a good state of mind, I decided to focus and start a lifestyle journey that I am still continuing.
My first 2 podcasts that helped me so much even today.
Mel Robbins
Jay Shetty
2 Quotes that helped change my thought process and still help me today.
I may not be perfect, but I am worthy – Mel Robbins
Mel Robbins discusses in her podcasts, in a lot of episodes that chasing perfection is a trap that prevents true progress and acceptance of oneself.
I took that into account because I am a people pleaser and it was for other people I needed to be perfect, and set an amazing standard that I didn’t accept myself, no one can be good or excel at everything.
The externals will never be perfect, and the goal isn’t perfection. Life is not going to go your way. You have to go your way and take life with you. Understanding this will help you be prepared for whatever may come – Jay Shetty
After hearing that on many of his podcasts episodes with experts I psychology and human behavior.
I really sat with myself. Everyone’s life has its ups and downs and you cannot control everything in life, you can only control yourself, your actions, and make yourself happy.
I am still reminding myself because as I go through the stressful and bad times, I forget. So I just write it down and remind myself what I can control and grateful for.
What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?
I hate when people act one in a fake manner just to put up appearances.
Then they act completely different in another way and it makes you question who they really are?
Its what I heard from Pretty Little Liars. A good line that applies to hard situations with others
You think you know people…then they surprise you.
Alison Dilaurentis
I see alot of fake people hiding themselves for negative and bad purposes. But luckily the truth comes out and it gives you the signal to run and distance yourselves from them.
So far nothing is perfect, but I would have a good week if these things happen…
At the start of the week on Sunday, I would pray and get ready for church. I would sing songs, dance, and just enjoy myself. And then, as the church ends early, I just come home. Relax and prepare for the week. I think maybe look up some new recipes and just laugh and maybe go for a Sunday evening, walk.
For the weekdays.
I would wake up to wonderful nice sounds in the the start of monday, no stress, I would meditate and pray.
Then I’ll just get ready for the day. To a nice morning routine, maybe some new habits to try out. Then I would go out to the gym or just stay in for a nice workout session and just be around calming energy and hype myself up for the day.
Then I can eat some yummy, healthy breakfast at eye meal prepped, or I made just for a bright start to the day, and go on a a nice walk
I would always remind myself to repeat good affirmation before I start work.
That’ll be my mornings throughout my week.
The lunch would be the same, but each day I would do something different. Maybe a new habit or walk around a new area and be involved in the community.
I would choose one day out of the week may be a Wednesday or Friday to do a hobby for myself in the evenings.
At work, I would love to be involved in events with my coworkers and like build new connections. Have a nice productive day and never feel like I’m behind.
Once a day, I would like to improve myself and maybe learn something new for the day. So it doesn’t feel like time is just passing by.
Saturdays, I would just wake up and reset from the week and try to clean everything. Just get through with the hard stuff and then in the afternoon, just relax, maybe we go out and just breathing some fresh air.
I would like to go out in the afternoons. Maybe to go for it’s like a simple walk or a movie or any show or any activity that I can make a memory.
I get settled in and come back from a nice Saturday and just pray to start the new week on Sunday better.
Each week moving forward, I would love for at least one or two things to get better and just look at life.
I’ve always loved the modern flair, but a little bit of the classic side with stone and with grass.
Option 1
I would like maybe two or three stories. I love a basement with a separate kitchen, but I’m not wanting in interior design but I have an interest in it.
I love a big yard, maybe, with a small swimming pool. Also, whether I’ve attached barbecue, I would love summer barbecues to cook in my own house.
Plus I would like to have lots of rooms. Just a big kitchen and a place where I can work and a place where I can work out inside, with machines so I can have good focus.
What was the last thing you searched for online? Why were you looking for it?
Last thing I searched for was children’s educational bedtime stories.
I searched for it because I was worried about my sister-in-law. She said that both of her kids, my niece and nephew. They are not sleeping well through the night.
And she is getting tired and having baby blues.
I just wanted to help, because I thought maybe adding a routine and making sure they know when to go to bed and signal for that is that most kids like bedtime stories and kind of sleep when their parents are reading it to them. So they can have good dreams and their imagination can go wild.
Storybooks for children are a good investment. Because it really adds to their childhood plus kind of takes away from them being too addicted to technology which even happens to little kids.
It’s like reset not to look at anything just to relax and listen and just drift off to sleep.
I didn’t have any storybooks when I was a kid only when I loved going into the library but I plan on doing that when I have my own family.
There were so many TV shows I grew up with as a kid! From the preschool days of Treehouse, to the classics on Nickelodeon, Disney Channel, Cartoon Network, and even some anime
I really had a wide mix of shows that shaped my childhood.
Ah, the good old days….back when TV felt a little more magical, before it started to feel like content was being rushed out more for quantity than quality.
If I had to break it down, I’d group my favorites by the networks I watched the most:
Treehouse & Nick Junior: The early shows that started it all.
Big Comfy Couch
Backyardigans
Franklin
Toy Castle
Timothy Goes to School
Thomas and his Friends
Care Bears
Rolie Polie Olie
Zaboomafoo
Arthur
Rugrats
Nickelodeon: Full of laughs, weird characters, and endless fun.
Fairly Odd Parents
SpongeBob
Danny Phantom
My Life as Teenage Robot Girl
Hey Arnold
Avatar
Ned’s Declassified School Survival Guide
Disney: The iconic shows that everyone at school was talking about.
Hannah Montana
Wizards of Waverly Place
Suite Life (Both Seasons)
Gravity Falls
Phineas and Ferb
Thats So Raven
Kim Possible
Proud Family
Cartoon Network: The quirky, creative cartoons that were sometimes hilarious…and sometimes just plain bizarre, in the best way.
Powerpuff Girls
Dexter’s Laboratory
Looney Tunes
Scooby-Doo
Teen Titans
Anime: My gateway into a whole new world of storytelling.
Inuyasha
Tokyo Mew Mew
Sailor Moon
Dragon Ball Z
There are honestly so many more, but if I wrote about every single one, this post would turn into a novel! So instead, I’m just going to highlight my top favorites….the shows that truly stuck with me, ones I loved then and still hold close to my heart today.
The Quiet Bloom 