Tag: self-development

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Second Chances

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If you had a million dollars to give away, who would you give it to?

If I had a million dollars to give away first of all, that would be great. And I would bless and thank God.

But I would give it to those people who could have a second chance.

People’s journeys come to a standstill, and they don’t know what to do. The most important factor in any place is having money. So you can do what you aspire to do.

Not a lot of people have that.

For instance, like homeless people who lost everything. But still want a second chance at pursuing their dream and having the ability of a good income to be okay.

Like convicts that have done something wrong, horrible even due to their previous circumstances and have suffered the consequences. They’re in a dark tunnel and don’t have the light when they’re released back into society. It’s good to help those who are looking for a second chance to help, not only for the public, but also for themselves and become part of the working environment.

Like helping the people who need financial aid in their higher education, because money is always an issue when trying to pay off a student loan or trying to pay for tuition. So you can try something new or something that you wish to be. It’s a good stepping stone to make sure that they’re truly financed with the learning opportunity to grow to begum the next generation’s good leaders.

I’d like to give the money for those type of people who deserve a second chance.

Balance, behavior, blogging, mindset

Perfection is Overrated

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What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?

The best piece of advice I got was from my brother and my kind manager at work.

Ever since I was a child…always been a people pleaser and did it for their sake not really my own choice.

Try to be the perfect person in their eyes.

When advancement there are struggles, hardships, obstacles, and fear.

Everyone’s path is different and not gonna work out, but that doesn’t mean that it’s useless because the effort to try is still there.

And it weighs heavily on the person because they feel they let everyone down.

But in reality they haven’t…

Their idea of perfection for other people’s eyes is just overrated.

What matters is doing the stuff that makes you happy, or being the person you are with no filters, and if people don’t like it…

Don’t care and shine like your original self.

I heard this from a well-known comedian that it took him 38 years to have the life he needed and prayed for. Nothing went perfectly and the judgment of a lot both personal and social was coming in all corners.

He just ignored and did actions that made him better and better for his true self.

I have a perfectionist factor in me that is a negative that made me have lots of breakdowns and negative thoughts.

I’m taking steps to be better for me, and just ignore the noise of others or my negative self-talk and just be me.

Take things step by step

attitude, blogging, chances, change, decisions, development, gratitude, growth, happiness, limit, mental health, random, self-love, self-reflection, writing

No Need to Be Perfect or Control

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Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.

As a kid, I wouldn’t say I was too pressured.

But I did not get the grades in the subjects that my parents approved of….

There would be harsh and negative judgment and that caused me to put so much pressure and be hard and critical in my own self-reflection.

So much so, when I got a bad grade like a C or B- in grade school to college. I would cry for an hour and say such horrible things to myself. I would want to control the outcome and when things didn’t go my way, it would feel like the end of my life.

Like…I’m so stupid, Why can’t I get this right, I have no brain 😔

The instant experience or action that led to a change was in 2024. When I was depressed for a couple after I failed a big exam and others passed. I put such a comparison and felt stupid because it was a familiar subject and I couldn’t remember from college after the pandemic.

Then my brother told me to take a trip for my self-care and get into a new environment and erase everything and live in the moment.

So I did, it was the best decision. It was like a refresh and when I got back home. I googled what I can listen to for self-care and change. Because I was not in a good state of mind, I decided to focus and start a lifestyle journey that I am still continuing.

My first 2 podcasts that helped me so much even today.

  • Mel Robbins
  • Jay Shetty

2 Quotes that helped change my thought process and still help me today.

I may not be perfect, but I am worthy – Mel Robbins

Mel Robbins discusses in her podcasts, in a lot of episodes that chasing perfection is a trap that prevents true progress and acceptance of oneself. 

I took that into account because I am a people pleaser and it was for other people I needed to be perfect, and set an amazing standard that I didn’t accept myself, no one can be good or excel at everything.

The externals will never be perfect, and the goal isn’t perfection. Life is not going to go your way. You have to go your way and take life with you. Understanding this will help you be prepared for whatever may come – Jay Shetty

After hearing that on many of his podcasts episodes with experts I psychology and human behavior.

I really sat with myself. Everyone’s life has its ups and downs and you cannot control everything in life, you can only control yourself, your actions, and make yourself happy.

I am still reminding myself because as I go through the stressful and bad times, I forget. So I just write it down and remind myself what I can control and grateful for.

blogging, self-reflection

Break Down the Walls… What Do You See

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How would you describe yourself to someone who can’t see you?

I am a person who has a lot of walls up.

Sometimes I find it hard to see myself, including everyone else…

Piece by piece as the wall starts to break down.

I’m quiet and observant, but also can be loud and passionate.

I am always helpful to anyone who needs a hand, but I kind of take on way too much for me to handle.

I’m interested in many activities and hobbies, but also scared to try something new.

I love deep conversations 😌 but can get bored when its the wrong topic.

I love playing around at times….But I take some things too seriously and I mess up.

I overthink and want things to be perfect or I don’t want to do anything wrong. But I learn from mistakes and try not to repeat.

Love classics whether be music, style, events that were great in the past, but live in modern times, and truly try to live in the moment.

I’m cultural and respect tradition…but not old fashioned and understand the importance of how things evolve.

I’m not funny when I try to and funny by incident.

I love to be social but do like when I calm down to try and spend time with myself.

So how should I describe me…

Hmm…

I’m all of those parts and more when I take my time and patience and break down the walls.

Take time to break down the walls