Tag: Balance

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No Need to Be Perfect or Control

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Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.

As a kid, I wouldn’t say I was too pressured.

But I did not get the grades in the subjects that my parents approved of….

There would be harsh and negative judgment and that caused me to put so much pressure and be hard and critical in my own self-reflection.

So much so, when I got a bad grade like a C or B- in grade school to college. I would cry for an hour and say such horrible things to myself. I would want to control the outcome and when things didn’t go my way, it would feel like the end of my life.

Like…I’m so stupid, Why can’t I get this right, I have no brain 😔

The instant experience or action that led to a change was in 2024. When I was depressed for a couple after I failed a big exam and others passed. I put such a comparison and felt stupid because it was a familiar subject and I couldn’t remember from college after the pandemic.

Then my brother told me to take a trip for my self-care and get into a new environment and erase everything and live in the moment.

So I did, it was the best decision. It was like a refresh and when I got back home. I googled what I can listen to for self-care and change. Because I was not in a good state of mind, I decided to focus and start a lifestyle journey that I am still continuing.

My first 2 podcasts that helped me so much even today.

  • Mel Robbins
  • Jay Shetty

2 Quotes that helped change my thought process and still help me today.

I may not be perfect, but I am worthy – Mel Robbins

Mel Robbins discusses in her podcasts, in a lot of episodes that chasing perfection is a trap that prevents true progress and acceptance of oneself. 

I took that into account because I am a people pleaser and it was for other people I needed to be perfect, and set an amazing standard that I didn’t accept myself, no one can be good or excel at everything.

The externals will never be perfect, and the goal isn’t perfection. Life is not going to go your way. You have to go your way and take life with you. Understanding this will help you be prepared for whatever may come – Jay Shetty

After hearing that on many of his podcasts episodes with experts I psychology and human behavior.

I really sat with myself. Everyone’s life has its ups and downs and you cannot control everything in life, you can only control yourself, your actions, and make yourself happy.

I am still reminding myself because as I go through the stressful and bad times, I forget. So I just write it down and remind myself what I can control and grateful for.

blogging, random, Uncategorized

30 Favorites For Me

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List 30 things that make you happy.

It’s hard but I will list my favorites that are in my life at the moment.

  1. Food: Chicken, Plantain, New Recipes, Nigerian Cuisine, and Chocolates
  2. Anime: DBZ, One Piece, Detective Conan, Inuyasha, Demon Slayer and much more
  3. WWE
  4. Quiet Mornings and Calm Evenings
  5. Mystery: Love me some Sherlock Homes and Agatha Christie
  6. Journaling: Finding an output for my innermost feelings in a safe space
  7. My Family & Relatives: Being part of a large African Family has its funny moments
  8. Sitcoms and Reality TV: Big Bang Theory, How I Met Your Mother, Friends, Bob Hearts Abishola
  9. Bollywood Movies: Loved them and still watch them as a kid because I learned so much
  10. Disney: Disney kid at heart with my Suite Life, Wizards of Waverly, That’s so Raven, and of course Hannah Montana
  11. Old Cartoons (Throwback): Disney’s Recess, Gilmore, Gravity Falls, Emperor’s New School
  12. Singing: One of my favorite hobbies
  13. Dancing: Love to move and groove
  14. Puzzles: Word Search, Pipes, Sudoku, Scrabble, Monopoly
  15. K-Pop: Love BTS and Blackpink
  16. Nail Art: Stopped but have to start that creative form of art
  17. Fitness: Appreciate and like home workouts like Chloeting and GrowithJo
  18. Holiday ~ Christmas: My favorite holiday to feel jolly and relaxed
  19. Beach waves with a gentle breeze
  20. Sonic and Mario: Favorite video games and characters growing up
  21. Hot Chocolate or Green Tea: Best drink for a cold day to relax
  22. Songs with deep meaning behind the lyrics
  23. Work of Art: Leonardo di Vinci, Picasso and Monet
  24. Deep Conversations: One-on-One spending talking for hours that just makes me feel better
  25. Quote by Julie Gardner: Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else
  26. Bible and C.C.C: Child of God
  27. Gameshows: Deal or No Deal, Wheel of Fortune, Family Fued, Price is Right
  28. Superheroes: Marvel
  29. Fantasy: Medieval Dragons and different worlds in fiction
  30. Color: Turquoise Blue

blogging, self-reflection

Break Down the Walls… What Do You See

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How would you describe yourself to someone who can’t see you?

I am a person who has a lot of walls up.

Sometimes I find it hard to see myself, including everyone else…

Piece by piece as the wall starts to break down.

I’m quiet and observant, but also can be loud and passionate.

I am always helpful to anyone who needs a hand, but I kind of take on way too much for me to handle.

I’m interested in many activities and hobbies, but also scared to try something new.

I love deep conversations 😌 but can get bored when its the wrong topic.

I love playing around at times….But I take some things too seriously and I mess up.

I overthink and want things to be perfect or I don’t want to do anything wrong. But I learn from mistakes and try not to repeat.

Love classics whether be music, style, events that were great in the past, but live in modern times, and truly try to live in the moment.

I’m cultural and respect tradition…but not old fashioned and understand the importance of how things evolve.

I’m not funny when I try to and funny by incident.

I love to be social but do like when I calm down to try and spend time with myself.

So how should I describe me…

Hmm…

I’m all of those parts and more when I take my time and patience and break down the walls.

Take time to break down the walls
blogging, life, limit

Habit Stacking & Limits

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How do you manage screen time for yourself?

I guess to manage screen time for myself is just realizing….that I don’t need to be on my phone or computer all the time just to have some entertainment.

Sometimes, I try the pomodoro technique, as in I would do 25 or 30 minutes of screen time and then just give my eyes a break for 5 to 10 minutes and stretch, especially when I work or I want to relax a little bit.

However, I would just say that a limit of screen time would be for like 2 to 3 hours per day if I was watching movies or a tv show.

Very recently, I have tried to put habit stacking a little bit….

The first thing that I’m trying to do is read more books. Not on my phone but physical books from the library or bookstore.

Another would be probably meditation and self care.

Sometimes, I would meditate, pray, and just focus on my breathing, especially when i’m too addicted and need to limit some screen time.

blogging, experience, growth, life

Creativity, Discipline, and Self-Love

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What details of your life could you pay more attention to?

As a quiet and nice person, I often forget about myself and focus on other people’s happiness.

Some details of my life I wished yhsy I could pay more attention to would be…

1. Self-Love: for myself because I’m too hard on myself and don’t appreciate it when I look at myself in the mirror

2. Creativity: These days, I focused on work and have been stagnant on the creative part of my life

3. Active: Just started being more active one step at a time, but I procrastinate and forget

growth, life

Taking Some Risks

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What could you do more of?

I’m a secure person who likes routines and being prepared so things can go exactly as planned.

When it doesn’t happen or one to two things go wrong, I get so upset and agitated.

But there are times when my life is so stagnant, and I feel bored

They do say taking risks is scary, but it might be worth it in the end.

I wanna go to different events, meet people, or try new activities outside my comfort zone, but I get afraid.

So I’m gonna work on dealing with unpredictable situations or putting myself in areas outside my comfort zone

exercise, experience, growth, life

5,000 to 10,000 Steps is the Goal

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How often do you walk or run?

Before, I never paid enough for my health and fitness. But now, as I implement a new lifestyle. The goal each day is to at least do a minimum of 5,000 steps of walking, and the max would be 10,000.

I only went to 10,000 once 😅

But as a beginner, becoming healthier and building some endurance. Walking is more my style at least 3 – 4 times a week. As a I sit down a lot, throughout the day.

growth, life, relaxation

Calm & Centered

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What positive emotion do you feel most often?

I guess being a quiet person has its perks, but most of the days, I really feel either calm and centered because I’m just taking a new outtake on life.

Everybody is always busy on any day. Just to focus on whatever life throws at them. But I’m really glad that most of the time that I’m really calm and centered. And I can think with the rational headspace.

Usually I would feel very tired or very stressed, usually every day.

The struggle of maintaining a good work-life balance.

But just taking the time just to step back, breathe, sit down, and take life one step at a time made me calmer.

fun, life, travel

A Legacy – One can Learn & One can Take

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What is the legacy you want to leave behind?

A legacy…

Reminds me a lot when I’m watching WWE, and I see all the superstars become legends that are easily recognizable and their journeys are great.

All that taught me was that if I were to share my story that turned into a legacy…it would be that one can learn and take to everyday life.

All the lessons and mistakes that the average person in different situations is actually a learning curve for the future that people can take from….

I would say that’s the legacy I would want to leave behind

A little bit of reflection from a personal trip

life, relaxation, Uncategorized

Unlucky/Lucky Thirteen

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Hey, sorry it’s been a while since I posted anything.

Life always seems to get in the way that it’s kind of surprising how time moves fast.

I have gone through some lucky and unlucky events in the past few months that just changed my perspective on how everything is constantly changing.

Unlucky: Realized it’s just a couple more years till I go from my family and build my own life and need to learn to maintain the wonderful relationships I already have.

Sad because things are going to change more quicker than I thought and it scares me.

Plus a small unlucky procedure… Wisdom teeth removal is annoying and painful, but can’t avoid.

Lucky: Found a rare and wonderful deal to treat myself to a first ever vacation trip to a destination that is exciting and new.

Taking some time off of pressurizing myself and clearing my head in both work, home, career, and social life helps put my own happiness in perspective.